I think the tradition of getting all dressed up (uncomfortable, rather) and going to some fancy dinner for Valentine's Day. This year, me and my boyfriend vowed never to do another uncomfortably fancy Valentine's dinner again. We were still so hungry after our pretentious 5-course that we ended up getting slices of pizza at some dive after dinner!
I think rules of having to constantly do everything together in a relationship is one that can be broken. We can both have own own interests and have our lives together and our family life. We have to have some alone time or we'll go nuts!
Q: My husband/boyfriend/fiancee speaks foul words when he gets angry and he gets angry easily at small things. Later on he forgets what he said and I keep on crying. Secondly, he blames me that it is because of me that he gets angry. Please suggest what to do in this situation?
See, he says and forgets, isn’t it? He says all nasty things and forgets about it, so you also listen and forget. Instead of telling him, ‘Don’t say it, don’t say it’, and holding on to it in your heart, as and when he gets angry keep ear plugs on you and put it on immediately. May be you can keep two ear plugs in your earrings, the moment he says something, put it and smile. People wear very big earrings, big rings, even birds can come and sit there, and so you also do something. It can become a fashion; you can set the trend – ear plugs hanging on earrings. You can ask a jeweler to design one such, with a nice color, and the moment he says something, quickly put them on. Let him say anything he wants to. Or you can slowly slip away from there, move away. When he starts being angry, tell him you have to urgently go to the bathroom and go and lock yourself there for half an hour or one hour. Or go for a walk; find some tricks. Once you know a person has this sort of a nature, no point in sitting and crying and making yourself miserable. That is how they are made, that is how their up-bringing is, yes!ABC, i.e., Awareness, Belongingness and Commitment are universal. I think you can apply this in any field, not just spirituality, business or politics; it cuts across different fields of human relevance.
I think important that couple's have their own lives and interests apart from each other. You don't always have to like the same things and do everything together. It's important to keep a sense of yourself!